Welcome to Glorious & Cash – Les Glorieuses launched this newsletter to talk about why money is power and matters for gender equality. In partnership with Women’s March Global, we’re taking this revolution worldwide. It’s written by Arièle Bonte and Uma Mishra.
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To continue this conversation about money, Rebecca Amsellem will host a conference on January 22 at the Canadian Embassy, go to the agenda section to register.
Why domestic violence is (also) about money, by Arièle Bontre
Quit her job as a nurse at the hospital to become a free-lance nurse was not Charlène’s short-term project. Refusing new patients simply because they are male, either. Supporting household expenses alone? Even less. So pay for his spouse’s excesses? Don’t think about it. And yet, this story is the story of this young woman, in her twenties, she’s a witness in Traquées, a documentary made by the journalist Marine Périn, which will be published on her Youtube channel at the end of 2019.One story among thousands of others, they are experienced each year in France by women victims of domestic violence (about 220,000 according to the Ministry of internal affairs). In the wake of the end of the Grenelle on domestic violence and the International Day for the end of Violence against women, it is urgent to take into account the phenomenon beyond domestic murders and feminicides.
Can you see me
It is urgent to talk about money. « There is no study to quantify the number of women victims of economic violence, but I would say that in one out of two cases of domestic violence, there is also economic violence, » says Isabelle Steyer, a lawyer in Paris and an activist for the rights of women and children.
What is economic violence?
Prohibit their partner from working, possess her bank account connection codes, limit access to their joint account, spend her salary on scratch cards, confiscate her credit card…Economic violence can be translated in different ways, but they all have the same objectives for the aggressor: exercise economic control, isolate his victim, deprive her of her independence. « The victim will think that she is not entitled to this money, » Isabelle Steyer points out, before adding: « Money becomes taboo ».
As a result
Breaking up, leaving home or asking for a divorce becomes very complicated. « A woman who is a victim of economic violence, for example, will not dare to apply for a pension even though she is entitled to it. She was led to believe that everything was overpriced, that she didn’t deserve this investment, so she’s not going to allow herself to even think about looking for a two-room apartment to escape the relationship. She does not have this freedom because everything is expensive for her, » adds the lawyer for whom economic violence exercises such power over victims that for them, « it is not a question of not having money but of not deserving it. The vicious circle can last forever. Especially since the problem does not stop there.
3.6 billion euros. This is not the State budget devoted to combating domestic violence, but how much it cost to society in 2012, according to a study conducted in 2015 by several structures (including the Centre d’études européennes de Sciences Po and the Observatoire national de la protection de l’enfance). From health care to police and judicial costs, including absenteeism of a woman at work, presenteeism or incarceration of an aggressor, this « low » estimate aims to show the extent to which domestic violence – whether or not it takes the form of economic violence – costs to society and to companies.
By the way companies cannot ignore the phenomenon. Because domestic violence does not stop at home, as shown by the « OneInThreeWomen » study, published on 14 November last and conducted among employees of 6 companies (Kering, L’Oréal, Korian, BNP Paribas, Carrefour and OuiCare).
At work, violence can manifest itself in different ways for victims: intrusive calls, abusive SMS messages (for 87% of them), presence of the violent person directly at the workplace (44%) or threat of contact with colleagues (33%), for example.
The study also shows that some women did not alert about the situation they were going through for several reasons: they were ashamed (for 38% of them), felt that the subject was inappropriate (63%), or that they would be judged (38%). Those datas say a lot: the company should be a safe place for every employee…
« These women have a more fragile health: they are more often absent, on medication and more prone to cancer, » adds Isabelle Steyer, before pointing out that these consequences often have repercussions on children who have witnessed violence. Isolated victims, sick and without money : this is the worst of the combo for total control.
What can I do ?
The Hubertine-Auclert centre has developed a comprehensive and detailed « practical guide » on economic and domestic violence and how to prevent or, in the worst cases, escape it. For Isabelle Stayer, it is essential to be able to enjoy your own bank account and say goodbye to the joint account. On the bank loan side, according to the lawyer, it is preferable, « to make personal loans even if you buy in pairs (except in exceptional cases such as buying a house): you have much more visibility on your economic situation and your debt capacity ». A way to regain – or keep – essential power when you are a woman!
What about France ?
Knowing your rights, anticipating violence to protect yourself from it is one thing, but acting at the national and societal level is another. The working group dedicated to economic violence of the Grenelle of domestic violence then urged France last October to address the issue, as provided by the Istanbul Convention (or Council of Europe Convention on the Prevention and Combating of Violence against Women and Domestic Violence), signed by France.
Chrysoula Zacharopoulou,from La République En Marche MEP who led this working group, advocates the creation of a compensation fund for victims of domestic violence as there is one in Spain, and proposes that perpetrators of economic violence would be punished by law, reports 20 minutes. This is not the case for now, confirms Isabelle Steyer.
Feminist associations are asking the State for €1 billion to fight efficiently against domestic violence. An emergency that must not wait for the taboo of money to be lifted among couples. Because this fundamental work, as we know, will take years and generations before it is normalized.
Holidays are coming and with their a lot of stress and questions: « What will I be able to offer cousin Charlie and my 4-year-old niece Tara? If you are not a fan of DIY gifts made with love and good intentions, I suggest that you look to ethical and solidarity markets. If you are in Paris, don’t miss the one of the Maison des économies solidaires et innovantes and for those who live somewhere else (or who don’t have the courage to face the cold that day), take a look at the initiatives invited for the event!
Checking your emails only 4 times a day is the advice of Mickaël Cabrol, EasyRecrue’s founding CEO, and Hubert Reynier, Visconti’s founding CEO, delivered in an article by Maddyness. The goal: to save you time by limiting the time behind your computer and mailbox. The director and figure of minimalism on Youtube Matt D’Avella goes further: he advises to do it only once a day (11am for him). The opportunity to undertake a
well-deserved digital detox if you did not stop working on your company since the beginning of the school year.
What if sustainable investment is the answer to global warming? Harvard Business Review notes that this type of investment is becoming increasingly popular and even among individuals! In France, you will find your happiness – and give meaning to your money – on the LITA.co platform.
Journalists working in Canada or the United States have opened a « SpreadSheets » to share their salaries while specifying the type of media for which they work but also their seniority, gender and skin colour. An essential tool to enable to better negotiate your entry salary or increase. When will a similar initiative be launched in France?
Notebook « The feminist revolution starts here »
Organizing the revolution is a bit complicated, so there’s nothing better than a dedicated notebook Les Glorieuses x Juniqe to make a retro planning to bring down the patriarchy while staying organized! Our notebooks are beautiful, they are in A5 format (14.8 x 21 cm) and their pages are all with lines.
//Conference registration mandatory//The Glorious have the honour to invite you to the conference: #5November16h47 – Women are not guilty. The conference will take place on Wednesday, January 22, November from 10:30 am to 11:30 am at the Canadian Embassy. Rebecca Amsellem will engage in a conversation with Isabelle Hudon, Yolande Libene, CEO of Bossie, and Elise Goldfrab, french entrepreneur, in order to make women feel free from guilt. The conference will be followed by a question and answer session. Are you interested? Register for the event by return email. Registration required (+1 possible, subject to providing contact details of the person concerned).
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Arièle Bonte is a French journalist specialized in equality, gender and sexuality. For three years she was leading RTL Girls, for RTL.fr. Today she’s an independent journalist but she still has the same goal: spread the news through the gender prism. She also wrote a novel « Le Choas des décidels » (Librinova), and she’s the author of the newsletter « Spell it out » about modern witchcraft. Her dream is to meet Lana Del Rey, to travel around the world and to have a green thumb.
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